I was discovering which conversations worked better than others and was able to avoid bumps in the conversation all together.
The confusion of first-dates was disappearing altogether. I hadn’t even thought that having fun could be a part of online dating but as I grew more comfortable, I had more fun.
Dating in numbers allowed me to make decisions based on what I desired, not based on how lonely I was at that time.
It also helped me better define what I was looking for in my profile. Greater Comfort One great side-effect to dating so actively was that I became more comfortable with dating itself.
This freedom allowed me to finally be honest with myself about what I was looking for.
I stopped defending the poor qualities my dates had and started moving on.
Honestly, it was often a relief because there were more first dates waiting and I would be able to remove someone from my list of potentials.Around the eighth month of my online dating experience, I gave up on my “sincere” method of meeting girls and intentionally tried to meet as many girls as possible at once.For the first few weeks, things were similar to my old method and I didn’t see immediate improvements but over time my dating life changed .As the stress began to lessen, I started representing who I was much better.Early on I was always in a panic-mode: trying to make sure everything went perfect on every date, overly concerned about the happiness of my date, worried about the impression I was making and so on.When I was relaxed, there was no “doing better” or “doing worse”. For the rest of us, the biggest part of find that special someone is opportunity.To put it another way: imagine there is a room with 100 singles of the opposite sex in it and in this imaginary room there is one person who is a “match” to you.I would continue to date someone negative or rude or conceited and would just hope that things would just eventually “work themselves out”.All this changed when my dating schedule became very active.Looking back, this only made my dates uncomfortable and left me looking either weird or desperate.When I had multiple dates lined up, I found myself very relaxed on each date.